There have been times when I have entered a workplace and just felt the weight of the emotional tension. The air was so thick that it was hard to breathe despite it being a smoke free environment. When you looked around you could see the employees walking around on tip toes with their shoulders slumped over.
The first time I walked into a place and felt this, my first assumption was the leader must be a tyrant. While that is a very understandable assumption to make, after investigation I found this was not the case. Actually the manager was a nice person and very easy to get along with. While she was very nice and personable she unfortunately went out of her way to avoid conflict.
There are a few things I have learned about avoiding conflict, one is that avoiding conflict does not mean it will go away and another is that when avoided it will most likely escalate to more destructive levels.
Over time the negative behaviors that result from unresolved conflict...






