I’ve been reading a lot of different stuff about coaching recently.  It’s good to see the different points of view, I learn something from each of them.  But in the end, sometimes I wonder if we are taking something that is already very tough and making it more complicated than it need be.

I read endless debates about who we should spend our time with, A’s, B’s, or C’s.  Everyone has a different view.  Some people even try to measure the optimal time spent coaching each person each week—it’s 15.23675899 minutes per person per week–OK I made that up, but you can find similar statistics in various posts.

There are lots of discussions about coaching approaches–directive, non-directive, and so forth.  Actually, I think these are very important discussions because they focus on maximizing the impact of each coaching discussion.  But some of them take the approach too far and are too formulaic, “use these words, with this emphasis, at this...

“What are you talking about Dave?  Qualifying is the job of sales, why are you talking about customers qualifying opportunities?”  It’s absolutely correct, one of the most critical success factors in sales is qualification.  Sales people need to viciously disqualify opportunities that aren’t in their sweet spot.  It may be a real deal, but it’s not your deal–so don’t waste time on it.

But I think sales people need to go further–I think sales people need to hold the customer accountable for qualifying the opportunity—is it real for them?

If we’re doing our jobs as sales people, we’re identifying lots of opportunities to improve their business, to help them grow.  Customers may want to do a lot of things.  They may be interested in engaging us on to discuss solutions.  But wanting to do something is different than having the ability to do something.  Customers need to qualify themselves—sales people need to help them.  Do they really...

One of the things I love the most about sales people is the eternal optimism.  It really takes a tremendously positive outlook to be a great sales person.  After all, we face rejection every day.  We face challenges and obstacles in every situation.  Some are challenges come from changing customer expectations. We always face market and competitive challenges.  Sometimes we face challenges from within our own companies.

It requires tremendous resilience and optimism to succeed in selling.

But sometimes that optimism hurts us.  Sometimes it prevents us from looking at reality, from seeing things the way they really are, not how we want them to be.  This is, perhaps, the most dangerous challenge sales people face.  It’s one of our own creation.  And it’s funny, it sneaks up on us–it never smacks us in the face, it kind of creeps in.  All of a sudden we find ourselves mired in a very difficult situation, struggling to understand and work...

I’ve got a terrible confession to make.  I cheat.  I don’t want to play fair and square.  I don’t like to play on a level playing field.  I do everything I can to tilt deals to my favor.  I do everything I can to stack the deck.

I don’t think I’m alone in this. Our inclination as sales people is to do this.  We want our customers to prioritize the things that we do well and that our competitors do poorly.  Likewise, we want our customer to de-prioritize the things our competitors do well and we do poorly.  We do everything we can to shift the criteria and customer’s attitudes in our favor.

Unfortunately, in the new world of buying, it’s becoming more and more difficult to stack the deck.  Customers are determining their needs, requirements and priorities without us.  By the time they’ve developed a short list, their requirements are already locked in concrete.  The vendors on the shortlist—our competitors and us, are there because we...